In just 3-6 sessions together we can:
It would be that all couples knew earlier on their fundamental personality patterns of thinking, feeling and behaving – and that most of their relationship challenges are predictable and preventable. My clients frequently tell me that they are devastated they didn’t know this information earlier in their relationship. It is heartbreaking. The suffering in a deteriorating relationship can create immense pain- we get attached to a primary person for them to be our safe place, and when they become the person we perceive as harming us – that is a very painful paradox that can create attachment trauma. I believe our worst behaviours come out when this is what we are experiencing. And all conflict is about poorly expressed needs. Couples come to understand their triggers, learn how to heal, and how they can prevent hurting one another and instead increase their intimacy (In To Me See).
In doing these sessions, couples came to realise that they’ve misinterpreted & jumped to wrong conclusions about their partner’s thinking, intentions and behaviour all along, creating unintentional and unnecessary pain. Now, however, they are being agents of healing and care for one another & can finally embrace the potential that was always there between them. And they can find the higher purpose to their unique union. Partners leave feeling excited, positive and seeing the best in one another in a sustainable way.
It is the greatest privilege in my life to witness couples deepening their connection, leaving holding hands, understanding each other anew, attuned to one another’s needs again & with a greater depth of intimacy and sense of commitment to be each other’s person.
2. Or if its pre baby– do the Couple D.N.A (my method) 1.5 days PLUS Bringing Baby Home (the Gottmans method I’m certified in) and an extra 1 day…..to deepen your understanding and attunement of each other, & attuning to your baby’s. Research clearly provides evidence that parents self awareness and attunement is critical to their baby’s healthy development & directly linked with children’s well-being and capacity to thrive.
There would be safety, understanding,
intimacy, feeling valued & growth …..
Tracy Baker-Lawrence is a leading Australian personality expert and relationship psychologist, and a certified Enneagram practitioner. She has worked with the Enneagram as a therapist with individuals and couples for over 20 years. She trained extensively in the Enneagram, in Australia and the USA, and presented at the International Enneagram conference in 2018 on The Ethical application of the Enneagram. She is a professional member of the Internal Enneagram Association and the Enneagram Collaborative Global, where she is presenting in June.
Over the two decades Tracy has facilitated live panels, and conducted over 3000 clinical typing interviews, codifying peoples body language and behaviour to hone her skills in determining accurately, and working with, each client’s personality developmental pathway (PDP). She also spent 4 years working towards a PhD to provide evidence of the Enneagram’s clinical efficacy in therapy and created a relationship matrix explaining predictable differences between people in their neurobiology, beliefs, attention, core needs and reactions.
As she is passionate about early intervention, Tracy founded The Insight Agency, an agency for change and a Business for Good, 4 years ago. Since then she has been researching and working with couples, married up to 40 years & at the point of separation, to determine what they could have known and done differently early in their relationship that would have prevented the hurt they were now experiencing. Every time 3 primary risk factors were determined and these have been converted into protective factors that underlie her methodology.
So, based upon her clinical knowledge, neuroscience and the best research on thriving relationships, Tracy developed a unique therapeutic ‘ATTUNED’ relationship methodology, “Your Couple D.N.A” Method, to understand partner’s unique Dynamics based on their Neurobiology and Attention. The method deepens partners accurate understanding of one another, by discovering partner’s unconscious core motivations, blind spots, early wounds and needs and how these interact, in a way that builds compassion and intimacy. This method has been tested with 100s of couples and having prevented many marriages from separation and divorce, is now offered as a pre marriage Program, Australia’s first divorce prevention program that can predict and prevent misunderstandings and challenges and future proof love.
Tracy also trains psychologists in the Enneagram, runs women’s workshops on “The Alchemy of Love”, does webinars and inner retreats, has written a 60 page eBook and is writing a book to be published in 2025 for couples on “Discovering their Couple D.N.A”.
This methodology incorporates your Couple D.N.A.™ and the B.O.T.H. model™. Every couple has their own unique Dynamics – based upon each partner’s Neurobiology (hardwiring & personality) and where each partner’s Attention in life goes. Uncovering how these factors interact, alongside shared knowledge of their life experiences, conditioning, wounds and needs, we can empower couples with the insights they need to protect their love from the start, or finally resolve their particular recurring Infinity Trap. Working with the ‘why’ – the root cause of relationship pain, partners come to accurately understand and fully appreciate each other and their differences, removing blame and defensiveness AND knowing how to grow and heal as individuals and as a couple. Unlike any other relationship enhancement work, which tends to be generic, this method is uniquely tailored to the nature of each partner. The method is based on the 4 principles of functional medicine & effective early intervention: it is personalised, predictive, preventative and prescriptive.
No other relationship work combines in-depth personality, knowledge of blindspots and unconscious
motivations with research on thriving relationships to deliver tailored relationship maps to help couples deeply understand each other and increase their connection and intimacy.
The insight Agency is on a mission to to use this transformative methodology to help couples quickly and easily gain insight, understanding and empathy for themselves and each other and find the deep love and connection they’ve always longed for. When they truly understand their own inner world and their partner’s ….. everything changes…….they recognise the wonderful potential and higher purpose to their unique union.
The insight Agency is a ‘Business For Good’ which means that for every insight session a child in need is fed or receives much needed counselling.
want to see in the world.The insight Agency is passionate about enhancing your relationship and is very grateful for your contribution in creating more health & well-being in the world.
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